All in all, after everything has been examined and argued, dissected and debated – whether in matters of war and peace, religion and politics, gender and race, crime and justice, health and education, economy and environment, marriage and family, pride and prejudice, gossip and greed, arrogance and ignorance – it all boils down to this one thing: we have a sin problem with a JESUS solution. So until we get this right, and until He returns to make everything right again, we will continue to live in this world of hurt.
So God created human beings, making them to be like Himself. He created them male and female, blessed them, and said, “Have many children, so that your descendants will live all over the earth and bring it under their control. I am putting you in charge of the fish, the birds, and all the wild animals. Genesis 1:27-28
Lets just state the obvious, which should be pretty much apparent to anyone with even an ounce of common sense – it can’t be a matter sex, sexual identity, or sexual orientation because in other words, “that dog don’t hunt.” I’m referring to this latest homosexual, bisexual, transgender, etc… movement going on that appears to be gaining many enthusiasts. Men with men, women with women, and changing genders just don’t work. These are mistakes and misuses of how human beings have been created. It’s forced, it’s unnatural, and it’s vulgar. Forcing body parts into places where they don’t belong, forcing foreign apparatuses to arouse and whatever else, forcing doctors to change one’s sex is absolute madness. Women were made for men, and men were made for women by the great GOD who created us to be either male or female for a reason.
Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to live alone. I will make a suitable companion to help him.” …Then the Lord God made the man fall into a deep sleep, and while he was sleeping, he took out one of the man’s ribs and closed up the flesh. He formed a woman out of the rib and brought her to him. Then the man said, “At last, here is one of my own kind— bone taken from my bone, and flesh from my flesh. ‘Woman’ is her name because she was taken out of man.” That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united with his wife, and they become one. Genesis 2:18, 21-24
Only GOD has the right to determine how sex works and where sex belongs, and we have really messed this up – big time. If the human race has fallen so far that we can’t even get male and female right, we’re in major trouble, as nothing is more plain and clear than this is. As a society, we’ve got to learn that sex doesn’t make the world go around and we must take sex out of those places it doesn’t belong. Sex works well and right in the one place where it has always been intended to be – in the marriage between one man and one woman. There really is no such thing as a “same-sex marriage” since there is nothing to “marry” together between a man to a man, or a woman to a woman. The same substance cannot be “married” into the same substance since that’s what it already is.
Honor marriage, and guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy between wife and husband. God draws a firm line against casual and illicit sex. Hebrews 13:4
Yet sex is and has been human being’s demise and default through the ages, so this current push to mainstream anything and everything sexual should come as no surprise. But if sex is removed from this homosexual and transgender craziness (since it doesn’t work anyway), what are we left with? Something called friendship – pure and simple friendship. Friendship is a wonderful thing as it gives meaning to life in a variety of ways. People don’t need sex to survive, but we do need other people.
Sure, many people have forced themselves into believing they are something and someone other than what the facts tell them, and the term for this is called cognitive dissonance, which is well defined in the book titled Mistakes Were Made (but not by me), by authors, Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson, (Copyright 2007, A Harvest Book, Harcourt Inc., Orlando, FL) who write:
“The engine that drives self-justification, the energy that produces the need to justify our actions and decisions – especially the wrong ones – is an unpleasant feeling…called “cognitive dissonance.” Cognitive dissonance is a state of tension that occurs whenever a person holds two cognitions (ideas, attitudes, beliefs, opinions) that are psychologically inconsistent, such as “Smoking is a dumb thing to do because it could kill me” and “I smoke two packs a day.” Dissonance produces mental discomfort, ranging from minor pangs to deep anguish; people don’t rest easy until they find a way to reduce it… Dissonance is disquieting because to hold two ideas that contradict each other is to flirt with absurdity and…we humans are creatures who spend our lives trying to convince ourselves that our existence is not absurd.” (Pgs. 13-14)
Cognitive dissonance is what allowed people to participate in things like the Holocaust in Germany, the slavery of Africans, and taking the land and way of life away from Native Americans in North America. Cognitive dissonance is what drives people to believe that if they don’t have a strong attraction to the opposite sex, or fit the stereotypical and popular characteristics of most others of their gender, they must be homosexual or should attempt to change their identity. Cognitive dissonance is what leads hurting, wounded, lonely people, who feel isolated and alienated, and who don’t have the support of family and friends, to do just about anything to cope with their pain and try to feel better about themselves. When people believe they don’t belong it creates many problems – things like joining gangs, engaging in unsafe sexual activity and prostitution, abusing drugs and alcohol, over-working, over/under-eating, over-spending, over-medicating, etc… and even convincing themselves that they must be gay, lesbian, or the other gender. But they have it all wrong.
And since this movement can’t be a matter of sex or sexual identity or sexual orientation, it’s really about the basic human relational and emotional need of belonging. Everybody needs a place to belong. Everybody wants and needs proper and healthy amounts of affection, attention, connection, and correction. Everyone wants and needs to be accepted, affirmed, and approved of by other people. Everyone wants and needs to feel welcomed and valued. This is why GOD has gone to such great lengths to save people – to give everyone a place to really belong – no matter how messed up and empty one’s life may seem to be, or how much other people have abused, neglected, rejected, and disappointed us.
GOD welcomes us into His family and makes us His own sons and daughters when we exercise faith in His Son, JESUS, the Savior of the world.
“And I will be a father to you, and you shall be sons and daughters to Me,” Says the Lord Almighty. 2 Corinthians 6:18
Yes, the real matter is not sex, but belonging. Being alone and isolated, feeling outside and alienated is a maddening, depressing, and hopeless place to be. But JESUS has provided a better way, a good and safe place to belong, find love, and have real true life.
We know that we belong to God and the whole world belongs to the devil. We know that the Son of God has come. He has given us a heart to know Him who is true. We belong to Him who is true, because we belong to His Son Jesus Christ. He is the true God. He has the life that will live for ever. 1 John 5:19-20
And with JESUS, there is no forcing required.