All in all, after everything has been examined and argued, dissected and debated – whether in matters of war and peace, religion and politics, gender and race, crime and justice, health and education, economy and environment, marriage and family, pride and prejudice, gossip and greed, arrogance and ignorance – it all boils down to this one thing: we have a sin problem with a JESUS solution. So until we get this right, and until He returns to make everything right again, we will continue to live in this world of hurt.
So God created human beings, making them to be like Himself. He created them male and female, blessed them, and said, “Have many children, so that your descendants will live all over the earth and bring it under their control. I am putting you in charge of the fish, the birds, and all the wild animals. Genesis 1:27-28
Lets just state the obvious, which should be pretty much apparent to anyone with even an ounce of common sense – it can’t be a matter sex, sexual identity, or sexual orientation because in other words, “that dog don’t hunt.” I’m referring to this latest homosexual, bisexual, transgender, etc… movement going on that appears to be gaining many enthusiasts. Men with men, women with women, and changing genders just don’t work. These are mistakes and misuses of how human beings have been created. It’s forced, it’s unnatural, and it’s vulgar. Forcing body parts into places where they don’t belong, forcing foreign apparatuses to arouse and whatever else, forcing doctors to change one’s sex is absolute madness. Women were made for men, and men were made for women by the great GOD who created us to be either male or female for a reason.
Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to live alone. I will make a suitable companion to help him.” …Then the Lord God made the man fall into a deep sleep, and while he was sleeping, he took out one of the man’s ribs and closed up the flesh. He formed a woman out of the rib and brought her to him. Then the man said, “At last, here is one of my own kind— bone taken from my bone, and flesh from my flesh. ‘Woman’ is her name because she was taken out of man.” That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united with his wife, and they become one. Genesis 2:18, 21-24
Only GOD has the right to determine how sex works and where sex belongs, and we have really messed this up – big time. If the human race has fallen so far that we can’t even get male and female right, we’re in major trouble, as nothing is more plain and clear than this is. As a society, we’ve got to learn that sex doesn’t make the world go around and we must take sex out of those places it doesn’t belong. Sex works well and right in the one place where it has always been intended to be – in the marriage between one man and one woman. There really is no such thing as a “same-sex marriage” since there is nothing to “marry” together between a man to a man, or a woman to a woman. The same substance cannot be “married” into the same substance since that’s what it already is.
Honor marriage, and guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy between wife and husband. God draws a firm line against casual and illicit sex. Hebrews 13:4
Yet sex is and has been human being’s demise and default through the ages, so this current push to mainstream anything and everything sexual should come as no surprise. But if sex is removed from this homosexual and transgender craziness (since it doesn’t work anyway), what are we left with? Something called friendship – pure and simple friendship. Friendship is a wonderful thing as it gives meaning to life in a variety of ways. People don’t need sex to survive, but we do need other people.
Sure, many people have forced themselves into believing they are something and someone other than what the facts tell them, and the term for this is called cognitive dissonance, which is well defined in the book titled Mistakes Were Made (but not by me), by authors, Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson, (Copyright 2007, A Harvest Book, Harcourt Inc., Orlando, FL) who write:
“The engine that drives self-justification, the energy that produces the need to justify our actions and decisions – especially the wrong ones – is an unpleasant feeling…called “cognitive dissonance.” Cognitive dissonance is a state of tension that occurs whenever a person holds two cognitions (ideas, attitudes, beliefs, opinions) that are psychologically inconsistent, such as “Smoking is a dumb thing to do because it could kill me” and “I smoke two packs a day.” Dissonance produces mental discomfort, ranging from minor pangs to deep anguish; people don’t rest easy until they find a way to reduce it… Dissonance is disquieting because to hold two ideas that contradict each other is to flirt with absurdity and…we humans are creatures who spend our lives trying to convince ourselves that our existence is not absurd.” (Pgs. 13-14)
Cognitive dissonance is what allowed people to participate in things like the Holocaust in Germany, the slavery of Africans, and taking the land and way of life away from Native Americans in North America. Cognitive dissonance is what drives people to believe that if they don’t have a strong attraction to the opposite sex, or fit the stereotypical and popular characteristics of most others of their gender, they must be homosexual or should attempt to change their identity. Cognitive dissonance is what leads hurting, wounded, lonely people, who feel isolated and alienated, and who don’t have the support of family and friends, to do just about anything to cope with their pain and try to feel better about themselves. When people believe they don’t belong it creates many problems – things like joining gangs, engaging in unsafe sexual activity and prostitution, abusing drugs and alcohol, over-working, over/under-eating, over-spending, over-medicating, etc… and even convincing themselves that they must be gay, lesbian, or the other gender. But they have it all wrong.
And since this movement can’t be a matter of sex or sexual identity or sexual orientation, it’s really about the basic human relational and emotional need of belonging. Everybody needs a place to belong. Everybody wants and needs proper and healthy amounts of affection, attention, connection, and correction. Everyone wants and needs to be accepted, affirmed, and approved of by other people. Everyone wants and needs to feel welcomed and valued. This is why GOD has gone to such great lengths to save people – to give everyone a place to really belong – no matter how messed up and empty one’s life may seem to be, or how much other people have abused, neglected, rejected, and disappointed us.
GOD welcomes us into His family and makes us His own sons and daughters when we exercise faith in His Son, JESUS, the Savior of the world.
“And I will be a father to you, and you shall be sons and daughters to Me,” Says the Lord Almighty. 2 Corinthians 6:18
Yes, the real matter is not sex, but belonging. Being alone and isolated, feeling outside and alienated is a maddening, depressing, and hopeless place to be. But JESUS has provided a better way, a good and safe place to belong, find love, and have real true life.
We know that we belong to God and the whole world belongs to the devil. We know that the Son of God has come. He has given us a heart to know Him who is true. We belong to Him who is true, because we belong to His Son Jesus Christ. He is the true God. He has the life that will live for ever. 1 John 5:19-20
And with JESUS, there is no forcing required.
…life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.
Pursuing happiness may be one of our inalienable rights listed in the Declaration of Independence, but is it really a worthwhile pursuit? How many people are truly happy? We have all heard others say: “If it makes her happy,” and “He deserves to be happy,” or “Do whatever makes you happy.”
Are you happy? Am I happy? What makes us think we are even supposed to be happy?
Happiness is subjective, as well as a shifting target. One day it’s here, the next day it’s there. It fluctuates like the wind, flows in and out like the tide, then flees the second problems arise. Happiness swells from a selfish, rather than a selfless perspective, and what makes you and me happy today won’t make us happy tomorrow.
Happiness is elusive until it has this or does that…then it changes again.
Happiness desires prime rib and lobster until it has it;
Happiness wants a Manhattan penthouse, a beach-front cottage, or cabin in the mountains until it has it;
Happiness longs for a Lexus until it has it;
Happiness is often found waiting for the weekend or retirement until they arrive.
But something newer, nicer, bigger, and brighter will appear and then we will want that instead, because happiness lives in the immediate and lasts only until it sees the next thing. Likewise, happiness only stays around when our happenings are kind to us, once our happenings get nasty, it is nowhere to be found.
But godliness with contentment is great gain. 1 Timothy 6:6
Godliness with contentment pursues the eternal and welcomes the present. It doesn’t dart when difficulties come, but intentionally moves god-ward, on a steady, lifelong quest seeking to know GOD and be known by GOD. Godliness with contentment tries to carry a Christ-like attitude and produce long-term Spiritual fruit – things like love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23) – no matter what happens to be happening to us. Nobody does this perfect, or even close to it, but godliness with contentment embraces all of life – the good, the bad, and the ugly – causing an increasing level of satisfaction and significance.
For godliness with contentment is okay with what it has and where it is…
Godliness with contentment can enjoy a cup of soup and crust of bread;
Godliness with contentment can live very well in a tar-paper shack, a studio apartment, or a mud hut on the Serengeti;
Godliness with contentment likes the old Buick LeSabre just fine;
Godliness with contentment doesn’t expect to retire, but to transition into its next assignment.
While happiness is about right now and what’s next, godliness with contentment makes the most of today while preparing for tomorrow. It is both responsible in this life and ready for endless life, allowing for peace and joy through it all.
Happy are the people who are in such a state; Happy are the people whose God is the Lord! Psalm 144:15
“The further a society drifts from the truth, the more it will hate those that speak it.” – George Orwell
Can anything “political” be considered correct? Supposedly, politically correct speech attempts to be nice, neutral, and non-offensive, but in reality, this is an impossibility. Just take a look at Jesus. He was the most caring, compassionate, and helpful person who ever walked and talked, and certain people still hated Him enough to beat Him ruthlessly, mock Him relentlessly, and then murder Him on a Roman cross. No, people are not neutral over important or even unimportant issues. People have real opinions and it is imperative to know what they are. So instead of trying to be politically correct, how about this:
…but speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in all aspects into Him who is the head, even Christ, Ephesians 4:15
Political correctness attempts to conceal the truth and coerce its listeners. It is interested in giving an image, gaining supporters, and getting votes. In doing this, political correctness does not present a neutral position, but a neutered one. It is both impotent and irrelevant since it won’t commit to anything. Sure, there are times when the truth can hurt, but as Brazilian novelist Paulo Coelho said: “Telling the truth and making someone cry is better than telling a lie and making someone smile.”
Speaking the truth in love focuses on enhancing trust, edifying relationships, and encouraging dialog. It places a priority upon protecting the character of others, not silencing the opposition. Speaking the truth in love emphasizes communicating in a way that is not boastful, proud, nor rude, and it is also quite simple to do.
“It does not require many words to speak the truth.” – Chief Joseph of the Nez Perce Tribe
So how about we put an end to all this patronizing and placating one another with political correctness – which isn’t correct at all – and commit to doing as Great Grandpa reminded us to do, “Always speak the truth but don’t always speak.”
There is a barrage of opinions being aired everyday about everything and this is good. Everyone is entitled to both have and to voice their own opinion about the various issues, items, and happenings going on, and everybody’s opinion is a valid one. Some opinions are right, some are wrong, and some are totally irrelevant, but still, opinions do matter. Differing opinions are not a problem, people should have different opinions about various matters because we are different – we have different needs, we have had different upbringings and experiences, and we view the world in different ways. Differing opinions drive people to talk, to test, and to try new approaches.
Yet few things in life are worse than having an opinion without knowing why you have it.
Problems arise from people without their own opinions who attempt to silence those opinions which oppose theirs. These people can provide no reason of their own for supporting the opinions they have adopted because their opinions belong to somebody else, i.e., they have an opinion without knowing why they have it.
Thus, these people are threatened because they know they cannot accurately explain or defend their opinion, since they have never really thought it through, so they resort to using force, generating fear, employing terror, and/or playing the role of the victim to accuse those who differ in opinion as being haters.
Really? Because I have a different opinion about a matter means that I hate? How and why can I hate people I don’t even know?
The wisest and richest human being who ever walked this earth, King Solomon of Israel, said these things:
The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and instruction. Proverbs 1:7
That’s the whole story. Here now is my final conclusion: Fear God and obey his commands, for this is everyone’s duty. Ecclesiastes 12:13
King Solomon’s father, King David, who is known as “a man after GOD’s own heart” and also a great leader and warrior, said this:
Fools say to themselves, “There is no God.” They sin and commit evil deeds; none of them does what is right. Psalm 14:1
Thus, human beings who inhabit our planet can be broken down into pretty simple groups: We have males and females, and we have GOD-Fearers and Fools. The differences between males and females used to be as obvious and basic as anything can ever be, but even now that is being dissected, debated, and determined by high courts and science laboratories. So this post will focus on the main differences between GOD-Fearers and Fools:
- GOD-Fearers acknowledge GOD as GOD and His Word (The Bible) as truth. They proclaim that He is the One, True, Triune GOD who is Father, Son, and Holy Spirit; our Creator, Savior, and Sustainer of life.
- Fools make up a god of their own by forming an image, fabricating a notion, or formulating a scheme within their own imagination.
- GOD-Fearers attribute all that is good, right, beautiful, and true to GOD.
- Fools give credit to Mother Nature, Father Time, Lady Luck, Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny, and the Tooth Fairy – just to name a few.
- GOD-Fearers admit dependence upon GOD, openly surrender control to Him, and yield their free will to His will.
- Fools boast of their independence, strive for power, and force their will upon others.
- GOD-Fearers accept that GOD is sovereign in all matters – the good, bad, and ugly, as well as life and death. They allow and invite GOD to work through all things for their good and His glory whether or not they agree with or understand why.
- Fools panic, complain, and attempt to control and manipulate situations and circumstances in order to “fix” things and “avoid” all pain and strain, so they forfeit their opportunities to grow and develop through such happenings.
- GOD-Fearers worship GOD. They give Him thanks and praise for who He is and for what He does.
- Fools worship and praise the things GOD created – nature; people who are popular, powerful, and peculiar; and themselves.
So what group are you in – GOD-Fearers or Fools?
There is a lot being said these days in respect to courage. Bruce Jennder, or, I guess it’s now officially, Caitlyn, is being praised and promoted by many media and special agenda groups as being courageous. But is this really what courage is? When did courage become a matter of constructing oneself to the feelings he/she might be having in a given moment, or even over a longer period of months or years?
Feelings certainly play an important role in our lives, for they give us insight into where we currently are physically, emotionally, relationally, and spiritually; but when feelings are allowed to take control, and become the driving force in our lives, the result is usually something closer to cowardness or craziness, certainly not courage.
Whenever someone says: “I feel _________” (fill in the blank).
The next question that should be asked is “Why?”
“Why do I feel this way right now?”
“Why do I feel ______ (fill in the blank) about this or that?”
“Why do I feel ______ (fill in the blank) about him or her?”
“Why do I feel______ (fill in the blank) about myself?”
Generally speaking, our thoughts produce our feelings which result in our behaviors. Our feelings are always legitimate, because they are what they are for whatever reason, and we certainly have the right to feel what we feel when we feel it.
Our feelings are neither right nor wrong, but the critical issue is what we do with the feelings we feel? It is important to be aware of them, to explore them, and to understand them; yet to go ahead and act on our feelings can be downright crazy, since this can cause all kinds of problems for us. Plus, our feelings are constantly changing.
Feelings come and feelings go. And our feelings are determined by so many factors like: who we are, what we are thinking about, where we are at, who we are with, what we are doing, what we want, what we need, etc…
Also, our feelings often work through our senses as the things we are seeing, hearing, smelling, touching, and tasting can all have an influence on what we feel.
Problems arise when people fixate on their feelings and allow them to control their thoughts and behaviors, without first questioning the feelings in a logical, reasonable, common sense approach. For unchecked feelings can give a person an inaccurate assessment of a situation. Here’s how this can work in some people:
When a person’s true or perceived emotional/relational needs are not being met in an adequate way by the significant people in his/her life, it can generate feelings of insecurity and inferiority, which then may lead the person into thinking he/she is unappreciated, unrecognized, unloved, and unwanted (and feeling these things too). So instead of questioning the feelings and communicating them to others (which would be the courageous thing to do), the person caves in to the feelings out of cowardness and often does something totally crazy.
Where can one turn when there is conflict and confusion between our thoughts and feelings? Where can we find a point of reference – a true north, an accurate measure, a proper gage?
The Word of GOD, The Bible. This timeless, best-selling book contains the standard operating procedures for human life, including all the basic instructions for making sense of our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.
There’s nothing like the written Word of GOD for showing you the way to salvation through faith in Christ Jesus. Every part of Scripture is GOD-breathed and useful one way or another – showing us truth, exposing our rebellion, correcting our mistakes, training us to live GOD’s way. Through the Word we are put together and shaped up for the tasks GOD has for us. 2 Timothy 3:15-17 (The Message)